“As I Began to …

“As I Began to Love Myself” . . .

Charlie Chaplin’s Speech on his 70th Birthday (originally shared by Leah on 8/22/11)

As I Began to Love Myself

 As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.

Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY“.

 As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody as I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me.

Today I call it “RESPECT“.

 As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.

Today I call it “Maturity“.

 As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment, so I could be calm.

Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE“.

 As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm.

Today I call it “SIMPLICITY“.

 As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything the drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism.

Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF“.

 As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time.

Today I discovered that is “MODESTY“.

 As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING is happening.

 Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT“.

 As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally.

Today I call this connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART“.

 We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born.

Today I know THAT IS “LIFE“!


“I hope today is the best day of your life and tomorrow is even better.” ~Fernando

It was Monday evening on 5th Avenue in NY City, 6 days before Super Bowl XLVIII, and traffic was CRAZY!  Not that it isn’t crazy any other day of the week.  Fernando texted me that he was a couple of blocks away.  I texted back and told him to look for a little lady in a bright red coat.

A few minutes later, Fernando pulled up, rolled down his window smiling and said “the red coat was perfect”!  Once in the car, I told him I was going to be the “annoying tourist” and hang my head out the window to take pictures of Times Square.  I even saw Neil Cavuto from Fox News, but he ducked into his car before I got a picture.

Times Square was typical and jammed pack full of people seeming to go nowhere.  But this Monday was full of football mania and Denver Broncos and Seattle Seahawks fans everywhere.  As the car crawled along in traffic, Fernando told me about how he charmed his way out of a ticket.  While he was parked a few blocks away 5th Avenue, a lady cop came up to his car and knocked on the window.  As soon as he rolled down his window and smiled, she said “oooohh, you smell so good and what a beautiful smile!”  She started flirting with him, and I could tell he thoroughly it.  Once he got my text, he told the cop that he needed to go.  She completely forgot about the illegal parking and waved good-bye (and probably wish she had gotten his number).  He turned around and look at me saying “it happens all the time” and smiled his beautiful smile.

We had a pretty long drive to Morristown, NJ, almost 1-1/2 hours with traffic.  Fernando asked if I wanted to go the “lazy river way” or the “roller coaster”.   He said, “some people tell me to stay in one lane  . . . don’t weave in and out.  That’s what I call the lazy river way.”  Well, no need to think twice . . . I said “roller coaster – just get me there safely!  Plus, I only tell my husband not to change lanes . . . “

Fernando is a positive being, another one of those crazy optimists.  He entertained me with a few more stories but what was most fascinating was his outlook on life.  I felt compelled to share Fernando’s viewpoints, positivity and hopefully a few smiles!

  • Live and enjoy this moment . . . because now it is gone, a new one has begun
  • Don’t just exist —  meditate, plan, be intentional in the mind
  • Do something to make the world better
  • Study and keep learning something new every day
  • Money isn’t important . . . necessary but shouldn’t be your 1st priority

When we arrived at my hotel, he helped me with my bag.  I handed him a tip and said “I know that money isn’t important, but I want you to know how much I appreciated the drive and talking with you.”  With that, he shook my hand, smiled his beautiful smile and told me the most amazing thing . . .

“I hope today is the best day of your life and tomorrow is even better.”

Thank you, Fernando!  I hope all of you will share his sentiment and pay it forward. 

Always remember to “Bea Positive”!!


2014 Resolution: Take time to UNPLUG and DISCONNECT

One of my pet peeves is the insatiable need to be “connected” 24/7.  Yes, I love the security of having a phone at
fingertips in an emergency.  I also like the freedom to take a candid photo at any time.  If I’m not sure where I’m going, I can get directions using my Maps App.  However, there are a lot of times when I’d like to have a real conversation with a person(s) rather than look at the tops of their heads!

As introverted as I am, I like human connection.  I just can’t seem to mimic the face-to-face, back-and-forth conversation, voice inflection, etc. with my smartphone or PC.   These days people talk in “sound bytes”, write in text-code and need constant stimulation from the “all-too-accessible” information from our phones, tablet, PCs.  There are times when it really CAN wait . . . you don’t have to answer your phone or reply to the text or “check in” with social media. 

For 2014, Bea Positive asks you to give the gift of your time & attention not your presence accompanied with the latest technology. 

Here are my thoughts on when you should UNPLUG & DISCONNECT:

  • Time to Unplug & Disconnect

    Time to Unplug & Disconnect

    When you’re standing in a check-out line, and the cashier is waiting for your money.  The rest of us would like to check out, too.

  • When you’re in a public restroom with the toilets flushing and hand dryers blowing.  Finish your business and free up the stall!!
  • In a client presentation, turn your phone off or at least put it on mute!  Trust me, it’s distracting to you as well as your client.
  • In a company meeting, turn off your phone/tablet/PC.  As a presenter and as a participant, there is nothing more annoying than listening to others tap-tap-tap on their keyboards.
  • At a sporting event – either indoors or outdoors.  You’ve spent a good deal of money to be sitting at the event, so you should enjoy!
  • Sitting In a doctor’s office waiting with others.  We can all hear your conversation, so please be polite and leave the office.  Or maybe better yet, wait until your appointment is finished and call them back.
  • When receiving post-operative instructions, pay attention to the nurse and doctor!  Yes, I actually witnessed a nurse telling a man to hang up his phone because she wanted his full attention when picking up his wife.
  • When dining out with others, enjoy the meal and converse with your friends!  Please don’t be rude and call/text someone during the meal.  And please don’t play a video game!
  • Getting your hair cut and/or colored.  My hair stylist said this is very frustrating because she has to work around the phone and/or text messaging.
  • When you’re driving, the texting can wait.  You can’t look at the phone and the road at the same time.  I’ve tried it, and it scared me to death!



“The fruits of success . . .”

I read this article today and wanted to share with all of you.  We all want to be “successful” and many times we think that money and titles are tangible signs of success.  I’m sure many of you are like me . . . you have (or had) a career that is unnoticed by the world at-large.  However, you’ve probably touched people in ways that have had a lasting and positive impact.

Bea Positive “Bea-lieves” that my life is successful!  I hope you enjoy the article and will share with others!

by Deepak Chopra, MD


An excerpt from “Are You Destined for Success?” November 02, 2013

The fruits of success, as measured in lifelong satisfaction, are far more meaningful. They consist of:

  • Setting a long-range goal and fulfilling it.
  • Building a secure sense of self.
  • Becoming a unique individual.
  • Fulfilling your potential in a satisfying way.
  • Evolving in strength, love, and wisdom.
  • Being of service to others.
  • Living for a higher value that can be described as spiritual.
  • Staying true to yourself.
  • Becoming a role model.
  • Being part of a stable and loving family.
  • Living with dignity.

These are the ingredients of a truly successful life. You can achieve them in parallel to a brilliant career or a career that will go unnoticed by the world at large. Every deeply rooted culture has valued the inner qualities that produce worthy individuals, who are the flower of that culture. If you lack these qualities, becoming a king will still leave you feeling empty and miserable. What I’ve outlined is called the path of wisdom in the East, and it’s worth considering here and now. In a consumerist society driven by the ethic of win-lose, it comes as a relief to know that there is another way.


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